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Women In Recovery

24 August, 2018Articles, News

Women often ask themselves, why is it so difficult to recover? Why is it so difficult for women to get clean or come into treatment? Most importantly, why is it difficult for women to stay clean?

Women coming into recovery often already feel uncomfortable confronting and being open about their disease. Why is this you ask? Women often tend to use drugs or drink for different reasons and they stay clean for different reasons. These reasons can often be associated with certain aspects of their lives. Examples of these can be that they have experienced a trauma early in their lives, are suffering from major self-esteem issues such as weight loss or body image issues, being hurt by men in their relationships, and the list goes on. Or maybe they just want to be a good mother to their children or a good wife to their husbands, but the stresses associated with this can often lead to a deep embedded fear that they may never be good enough or are failing at what they have been put on this earth to do. This could be the reason that so many women get pulled into the deep, dark world of drugs and alcohol just so that they can feel better about themselves.

Women often end up with many other addictions, and often develop eating disorders because of self-esteem issues and insecurities. Along with issues such as love addiction or co-dependency.

Why is it difficult for women to recover from substance abuse issues? Women are seemingly expected to conform to certain requirements in society, and this can lead to immense pressure for them to perform better or be the perfect wife or mother. Often women will come into recovery for the wrong reasons. They want to keep their marriage, they want to keep custody of their kids, or they have become so engrossed in the revolving circle of depression and self-esteem issues, that they want to change they just don’t know how. Often a cause for relapse in women is that they pick up weight in recovery and they end up not liking the way they look so they end up going back to the drugs in order to lose the weight again.

Women are often more intimidated than men, partly due to trust and self-esteem issues. This is part of the reason why it is sometimes incredibly difficult for them to open up to a sponsor or attend meetings, situations that force them to be vulnerable. NA or AA meetings often have a greater attendance of men than women, which may intimidate a lady coming to her first meeting looking for a safe space. However, both the NA and AA fellowships have dedicated women’s meetings. These fellowships have recognized the need for women to have a dedicated space where they can deal with issue that they may not feel comfortable bringing forward when there are men around.

How can we change this? Empower women to change. Let them know that it is ok to not be ok. Women should be open-minded and willing to explore other meetings in order to find a place that they feel comfortable with sharing their issues. Women need to learn to love themselves and positively encourage each other. Women can, and do recover.

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The Beauty of a 12 Step Program

17 August, 2018Articles, News

Addiction is defined as a disease by most medical associations, including the American Medical Association and the American Society of Addiction Medicine.

The disease of addiction is a chronic, progressive and terminal illness.

Without treatment and constant management of the illness, addiction will progress and result in self destruction and possibly death.

A 12-Step program is a very effective way to manage the disease of addiction.

As part of a long-term recovery, the program is based on the 5 Pillars of Recovery. The 5 Pillars have been proven to be effective for chemical dependency, co-dependency, depression, grief and loss, eating disorders and behavioural disorders such as gambling. When clients relapse, it is usually because they have not made all 5 of the Pillars part of their lives. There is more to recovery then just the 5 Pillars, yet in my experience, the possibility of relapse is minimised if all of the 5 Pillars are actively pursued.

The 5 Pillars

1. Regular meeting attendance
2. Acceptance of a higher power
3. Sponsor
4. 12 Steps (step work)
5. Service to others

1) At Crossroads Recovery Centre, clients are taken to three outside meetings (Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous) and also required to partake in two in-house meetings on the premises. This is an opportunity for them to connect with others who are actively pursuing their recovery and to get guidance and support with their struggles. Meetings cover variety of topics and will sometimes have a dedicated speaker for the evening. This is a chance for members in attendance to learn more about how the program works as well as a forum to carry a message of hope to others.

2) It is important for an addict to turn their lives over to a Higher Power of their understanding. The 12 Step program is essentially a spiritual program and spiritual groups, prayer and meditation is at the core of our treatment program at Crossroads. The definition of a Higher Power often varies from person to person, but AA and NA do not subscribe to, or endorse any religion or lack thereof. People of all belief systems and faiths are welcome, no one will ever be turned away because of their beliefs.

3) Getting a sponsor after treatment is vital. A sponsor acts as a guide for the journey through the 12 steps, as well as acting as a mentor and forms an important part of a recovering persons support structure. Our philosophy is based on the philosophy of one addict helping another. All our counsellors are not only professionally qualified counsellor, they are also recovering addicts with over 100 years of clean time. The benefits of one addict helping another is so valuable because not only do our counsellors, and the sponsors working in 12 step fellowships, fully believe and live by what they preach, they offer support from a place of mutual understanding.
The counsellor guides the clients through the 12 Steps whilst in treatment and thereafter clients are encouraged and assisted to get their own recovery sponsor.

4) The 12 Steps is a written spiritual program which deals with all aspects of addiction. Namely, denial, powerlessness, unmanageability, coming to believe in a higher power, personal inventory, defects, amends, forgiveness, guilt, shame and trauma are only some of the issues covered. Written Step work is the core of the 12 steps program and clients are required to spend much of their lime on this crucial process. Stepwork is an opportunity to critically look at the behaviours, attitudes, and pre-conceived ideas that lead to a person seeking help. It is an opportunity to challenge our thinking, getting to the root of a problem that may in the past not have been given much thought.

5) Clients are required to be of service in the house whilst in treatment and are actively encouraged to become sponsors themselves upon completing the 12 Steps. Service is a corner stone of the 12-step programs. Being not for profit institutes, and being almost entirely run by volunteer involvement, the 12 step programs only exist because recovering addicts put their time and energy into service to keep the doors to the meetings open. Being of service to others and carrying a message to fellow addicts is what helps keeps a person clean and sober.

Coming into a fellowship can be intimidating and confusing for someone who has never been part of a support group before. A lot of what we do at Crossroad Recovery Centre is based around the 12 steps and 12 step groups because it is such an effective way for a person to have long term support in their recovery. It is a way for a person to keep bettering themselves, long after they have left a treatment facility.